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Marriage, something that is supposed to make life beautiful and easy has become a very difficult venture. Imagine having someone beside you to do life with. Making decisions together, facing challenges together, and winning together. But how could it be when there are so many traumas yet to be healed from, immense selfishness, and lack of commitment? Wounds unhealed rubbing against each other, family dysfunction rearing up its ugly head, and making what is supposed to be beautiful a battlefield.

The woman is holding back financial support, saving for the evil day, so she is not left with nothing. The man, oh, calculating how to position himself so as not to lose in a case of divorce. All these precautionary mindsets stemming from past hurt and testimonies of others who have been victims before, are robbing us of the joy and peace we ought to enjoy in marriage.

When I ponder on these things I can’t help but wonder what marriage would have been like if there were no fear of hurt, or broken trust. If like children, we retained our innocence. Or maybe if  we humans aren’t intrinsically selfish, thinking only about ourselves and doing to others all that we can’t accept to be done to us, like cheating, abusing, and dominating others…oh if wishes were horses…